That Voice

That Voice.

The one that says you Can’t.

What do you do with That Voice?

Do you listen to her when she says you are too slow? Too old? Too crazy?

Do you take her to the gym and leave her in the car while you work out only to listen to her on the drive home as she prattles on about how hard that workout was and how maybe you should take a few days off?



Do you let her stay inside your head rent free? Is she using up all the hot water in a 60 minute shower, downloading porn on the free wi-fi, drinking milk from the carton and never putting her dirty dishes in the dishwasher?

Can’tVerb – Contraction of Cannot. An auxiliary verb expressing incapacity, inability, withholding permission, etc. can not

I have had my eye on the Around the Bay Road Race for the last few weeks.  It’s 30km and takes place at the end of March when our Canadian weather is unpredictable. It’s more than twice the distance I have run in the past and it’s 7 weeks before my first half-marathon.

It is the oldest road race in North America and I want to run it but That Voice is quietly telling me I can’t. It’s too cold, too far and too soon before the 21.1km I have committed myself to in May. I just can’t seem to pull the trigger on signing up and submitting my fee.

So instead I have signed up with a personal trainer who has completed multiple Ironman’s and Marathons. She will help me develop a plan to run farther than I have ever run before so I can feel confident when I sign up for this race. She will push me, encourage me and help give That Voice her eviction notice so I can sign up for Around the Bay.

Eviction starts tomorrow.


Have you heard enough from That Voice and started her eviction notice by surrounding yourself with people who fill your thoughts with “I can do this.”?

What was your toughest mental challenge and how did you overcome it?

Meet Anita

I am a wife to a retired Army Captain and present day shepherd, a mother to two Big's (20 & 19) and one Little (6) and new to running at the age of 42. I am hopelessly addicted to Starbucks Peppermint Mocha's. My family thinks I am crazy. The voices in my head say they may be right.

10 Thoughts on “That Voice

  1. Love this! You gotta silence that voice and just rock it! I KNOW you can do it! I think it’s great that you’ve enlisted help w/the trainer — so awesome :)
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    • Thanks Courtney, your comment really means a lot to me. That Voice isn’t going to know what hit her tomorrow morning! :)

  2. I hear from that voice far too often. She has gotten quieter as I feel myself getting stronger but sometimes in those difficult moments she gets louder. Most days I win but Sundays it feels like she wins. My toughest mental challenge is getting through distances. My body yes at me way before my mind but then that voice in my head tries to take over.
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    • I think if we win most days it makes it so much easier to squash that voice on the days she gets nasty. You’ll ROCK that marathon, leave that voice at the side of the road on mile 20! :)

  3. What an amazing post!! Yes I think we all have that voice and we all need to build our confidence so that when that voice comes up we can say ‘pipe down!!!’.

    Such an open and honest experience.

    This morning I was halfway through my workout and I had a moment of a voice saying to me ‘Your tired, just quit now, what does missing half a workout matter?’ and I had to just shut it down and I am glad and ended up finishing the workout strong.
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  4. wow a very powerful post! I love it….and I would like to run this race in 2015! Thanks
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  5. Totally love it! For me the voice has historically been about dawdling a bit on the laptop (rather than just checking email on iPad before I go out in the morning), ‘rewarding’ myself with unhealthy snacks (fortunately not a problem the last couple of years) and so on.

    Did you see the big Oatmeal comic about running? (

    He describes he voice as ‘the blerch’
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